movies.marriage.talk.

What is it with movies and making everything seem so much more fantastic than they are,either that or they incite grief like its the end of the world.Ah!movies..they have inspired me almost everyday.Yes,i watch one everyday.They ve kept me company throughout my dark college period,cheered me up when i'm not really in the mood to even sit with the light on,and i also had an overdose of them on those exceptional lazy sundays.i blame movies for my high expectations in relationships!Dont you think so? Maybe thats why no man could ever keep me too happy for too long.And let me make it clear,i do not have daddy issues.Hence the most plausible explanation i can come up with is - the movies!I dont like movies the cliche way as much as i may sound that way.I like movies with loose ends,like the Last night..the one with Keira Knightley where she is married to Sam Worthington and happens to have an old boyfriend visiting when her husbands out of town on an office trip defiling his colleague who happens to be Eva Mendez(yes, they just had to make her the evil seductress).Either way Keira Knightley is spending a night out with her ex who happens to be a french guy from paris(i mean who doesnt love the europeans?) ,who also happens to be a writer.(uggh!and yes,he just happens to be that sexy in a delicious, poetic way).Anyway,they go out ,rekindle,kiss and just spend time.No, there was no raunchy sex involved.It was just time spent between people who loved each other deeply once.i mean it could happen to anyone.How many of us have not been in "love" since middle school?All of us either thought it was love or just maybe lets say hypothetically, it was 'love' sufficient for that age group in that particular time frame.So yes,all of us also have that one we came to share something deeper than we did in high school with, in college.Doesnt mean you go somewhere with it.Doesnt mean we dont.but the question is what happens if nothing happens and we meet after?I would want it to be poetic.I mean i m not being filmy.My definition of poetic is meet randomly, have a decent conversation with no awkwardness and with the utmost respect and nostalgia.No, i would not want to be friends with his wife.But i would want to know hes doing well or maybe i just want to be happy knowing he has an ugly wife who probably will never be as hot as i am(evil laugh).Anyway,m off topic.What i was trying to say was movies make you want to believe.Alright,what about War Horse?i mean isnt it epic how that horse, Joey makes its way back to the english boy who brought him up and survives war?He literally gets sold to an english officer,who then dies and the horse becomes a slave to the germans,then it gets lost and is taken in by a little german girl,then again slave to the germans,then back to the english.i mean ,Damn!Theres a scene in the movie where Joey gets caught in barbed wire, while he was running away from a hotzone,what with all that firing and all.So both the parties at war see Joey and both of them come together to rescue a horse-a german and an englishman.They have small talk about the war,flip a coin on who gets to keep the horse and split.I think what Spielberg tried to convey was that in a time of war,two people from the opposite lines of fire came together to rescue an animal,spirited enough to live through it.I mean noone really wants to fight a war.they are all common men-butchers,farmers,bakers who happen to be pushed along with the rest of the herd to fight for whats rightfully theirs.They are terrified,scarred,broken yet they fight-some with courage,some with the fear of being shot by their own if they dont get out there and shoot someone.its obviously one of those larger than life hotchpotch movie schemes.But who can resist one with that insync-with-your-emotions background music that comes with every movie and elevates that moment in the movie for you.And its Speilberg we are talking about here.You just cant argue with his grand gestures in a movie.i might have just given you the worst examples i could have out of those billion good movies i watched.i just couldnt think of any for now.

So what i was trying to say is, thanks to movies in general,we are messed up either in a beautiful-yes i m going to be unbelievably/unnecessarily optimistic about life,career,boys,our future and everything else way or we are just living in our make believe world(i am).Either way,it does the job doesnt it?I have never thought of anything in the supposed "right" way.Maybe its my liberating education,maybe its my less severe indian background ,appalling all those cliche indian aunties,or maybe its just my lack of adherence to a system of any kind.You have any idea how many indian girls are made to believe they have to get married just because it is the age to get married?or just because the boy is from a well known circle and has sacks of money or because she wouldnt be fertile enough to have kids in her 30s(i mean dont we already have only about 400 eggs left in our reproductive period)?Who are these people who suddenly decided one day-yes,this is how it is going to be.That this is called the marriage institution and that we are going to adhere by it even when it is 2012.I would like to meet that Einstein and smack his face.I dont mean to sound cynical.but why do we need to be married?why cant we just be?why cant we love as many as we can,i m not referring to sex or the relish you may find in being with different kind of men/women.I am talking about how for some of us who have met people and always learnt something from them,taken something away from one relationship and shared the same in another.It could be a friend,a teacher,a stranger,a patient.You learn so much from just watching people.You learn to feel,you learn to love,to live,to appreciate,to want,to dream,to learn.Marriage doesnt necessarily mean the end of anything.I m just citing it as an example as to what shackles us.one of those many that do.Fame,power,wealth-i want it all just like everyone else.not even being modest about it.Just that it irks me when i have to do something just because it is the way of life.Or am i hoping for too much?